Dad and Grandpa are great, but they are not the guys you turn to when you have problems. Dad will be judgmental, and yell because you screwed up. He will rattle on with his outdated opinions. Grandpa was around when dinosaurs roamed the earth. How can he understand your dilemmas, when he cannot even operate the computer you gave him. There may be validity to this, but there are good reasons to rethink turning to older men for advice.
If father is unreachable, old gramps may be more helpful than you think. Although related, there is a different dynamic between the two of you. Being around for a while gives a guy experience. You may think your plight is new and original, but most likely, it just isn't. Older men have been through that, and more. Don't sell short the wisdom they spent a lifetime attaining.
There are good reasons in listening and trusting grandpa. First, he has your best interests at heart. Second, you can most likely be assured that he will keep conversations between the two of you, confidential. He is at a stage in his life where he will feel honored to be needed in this way.
As my Aussie side of the family would say, give it a go. You could be very happy that you did.
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