Good Grooming Counts

Sara showers, perfumes up and spends forty minutes applying her makeup until it is just right. Clothes are strewn on the bed as she tries on several outfits before deciding on one. She looks into the mirror and nods as the doorbell rings. When she opens the door Paul is standing there, smiling in his tee shirt, jeans and ratty looking sneakers. She is not very impressed but likes him enough to try to overcome the frustration. When she steps out the door he leans into her and says, I know you will love the place I'm taking you to. She is aware of his body odor and is too shocked to say anything about it.

When they arrive at the restaurant, Sara is impressed and lets Paul know he made a great choice. After they are seated, the waitress approaches to take their drink orders. The waitress wrinkles her nose as she turns to go. Sara finally speaks up, Paul, it would have been nice if you had showered and dressed up a little. Paul instantly bristles and feels insulted. She should like him just the way he is. If she doesn't, then she has the problem.

This scenario is not unusual and Paul is wrong. Women should accept the personalities traits of the men they date, bad grooming not being one of them. Neither body odor nor greasy hair are attractive. Showering, shaving and looking nice is a sign of respect towards the woman you are with. It is also part of being a gentlemen, which seems to be a vanishing breed in our society.

Be A Gentleman

She buys something new to wear and takes hours to get her makeup just right. When you pick her up you are blown away at how beautiful she looks and tell her so. After giving the valet your keys and walking into a swanky restaurant you feel confident at the wonderful time you will both have. As you settle into a booth with an ocean view a gorgeous waitress comes up to greet you. She smiles at you with some interest and you suddenly feel like Brad Pitt. Maybe it is a blond at the other table that bats her eyes seductively. You are too friendly with the waitress or keep glancing over at the blond to see if she is looking at you. The outcome will be the same, you are in for an expensive hellish night. Women hate this scenario. They find it demeaning and insulting and either react immediately or push it down only to give it to you later. You need to be respectful and resist temptation. It may be nice to be admired by a great looking babe, but if you care for your lady you need to show restraint. She wants all your attention. She wants to feel special. With the economy the way it is, expensive date nights are getting fewer and father between. Don't be a cad and ruin what should be a wonderful and romantic memory for the both of you.